At Discovery to Recovery, Aarti Chidambaram specializes in guiding trauma survivors through their healing journey, focusing on attachment wounds, relational trauma, betrayal trauma, and complex PTSD.
Nick-named the “Partner Whisperer” by Rob Weiss (expert and author in the Sex addiction recovery field)
Fondly nicknamed the “Partner Whisperer” by Robert Weiss, a renowned expert in sex addiction recovery, Aarti Chidambaram is a respected figure in the field of Betrayal Trauma. For the past decade, Aarti has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate the challenging journey of healing and recovery.
Aarti’s practical approach to addressing complex concepts such as boundaries earned her the title of “Boundary Guru” from Carol “the Coach” Sheets, a prominent figure in the field of betrayal trauma. Her ability to translate complex psychological concepts into actionable steps with compassion and understanding has made her a trusted resource for individuals seeking support and guidance. An APSATS (Association of Partners and Sex Addicts) Supervisor and ERCEM (Early Recovery Couple’s Empathy Model) Supervisor, Aarti has helped both individuals and couples navigate the tricky road from Discovery to Recovery.
Her work on “Boundaries” specifically has attracted a lot of attention and she has presented on the topic in many international conferences, where her concept and use of boundaries have been very well received.
Based in Singapore, she has been actively facilitating partner support groups, offering a safe space for individuals to share their experiences, find solace, and gather valuable insights from others who have gone through similar challenges. Her dedication and commitment have led to the establishment of the longest-running partner support group in the country. Aarti believes in the power of connection and aims to create an environment that fosters healing, growth, and resilience.
Through her work, Aarti empowers partners to regain their self-worth and rebuild their lives after the devastating impact of betrayal. She helps them navigate the complexities of establishing healthy boundaries and rebuilding trust, while also emphasizing self-care and personal growth as crucial elements of the healing process.
Her work continues to make a lasting impact on the lives of partners, guiding them toward healing, growth, and renewed hope for a brighter future.
Participants experience of the Boundaries workshop: Exceeded my expectations. Such in depth information, practical frameworks and Aarti is a wealth of knowledge and experience—it was invaluable. Appreciated the safety created for sharing and support, as this enabled a real practical application and exploration of boundaries and the need for this work. Thank you for your wisdom and genuine care
Hi Ladies, I attended the 2023 “Wings of Hope” retreat. Life changing is the phrase I would use. Before went, I was lost, confused and to a point felt trapped in my relationship. My husband was (& is) in recovery, but the uncertainty I felt about the future and what I could or couldn’t do about it, was real. Aarti guided me through a process of allowing myself to accept and understand my story and gave me many tools that I gave used to move through some of the pain from the years of betrayal.The loss and grief portion of the retreat, whilst very difficult, was transformational—being able to take back things that I had lost was very empowering. Having Yoga at the start of the day and breath work at the end was the perfect way to manage the emotions that ultimately came up each session.
My journey with self healing and self discovery started 6 years ago. I was in deep despair with my world turned upside down. The first year was a living hell fraught with anger, frustration and loneliness. Aarti, patiently with her unique sense of understanding, gentle probing, support and guidance brought me to stability, to a place that was able to set up boundaries (She is the master at boundaries). She has a deep commitment to each one of her clients and is dedicated to see them through the darkness and bring them to light. I was so lost when i walked through her doors, through her supportive varied therapy sessions i am beginning to find myself and see purpose in my life
I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have been introduced to Aarti by a partner at the outset of my journey. From the very first session, it was evident that I had encountered someone who not only comprehended the pain I was experiencing the pain empathised with it. To say that Aarti has transformed my life would be an understatement. Her unparalleled blend of authentic care, profound knowledge, and empathic insight has been nothing short of life-altering. If you find yourself grappling with the aftermath of betraya; and seek guidance to navigate this extremely difficult time, look no further than Aarti. She truly stands out as he epitome of excellence in her field.
Aarti’s guidance has been invaluable in my healing journey from trauma. Highly recommend her expertise!
